madi’s place

One advertisement that I can remember as a child was the Nestle Nesquik ad. “Have a Nesquik and blame it on the bunny”.

How true is this not in our daily lives. Everything we do we blame on something or someone else. Shifting the blame, is the easiest thing in the world. I was involved in a accident today. I hit a pedestrian with my car and killed him. It wasn’t my fault he ran across the road, right in front of the car. It was not because I was speeding O, NO it was his FAULT.

It is GOD’s FAULT for giving me crappy parents that is why I am using drugs. It is my parent’s fault that I am having sex at the age of twelve – they don’t care about me. It is my husband’s fault that the kids are not listening; he is never at home to discipline them. It is my wife’s fault that I am having an affair, she is not giving me some special care – it always just the kids.

Do any of these sound familiar? We often blame our past for our current situations. South Africa is a great example of this. The people are unhappy with the government because all they do is “pocket all the money” and the man on street must fend for himself and if someone asks why. “It is because of apartheid.” Yet we are 15 years into a democracy. For fifteen years everybody in this country had a fair chance, yet we still blame it on something that died fifteen year ago. Why? Because it is easy and we don’t have to take responsibility.

The same with our own personal lives. My life is in a mess because of my past and the people around me, not because I made the wrong choices, NO NEVER ME, it is them, and the sad thing we always blame GOD when things go wrong.

Has it ever occurred to you that God might have nothing to do with it? We always pretend that we are here and God is there. There is always a distance between God and us. I mean Beth Midler even sang a song about the distance between God and us. “God is watching us from a distance”. We are so use to the fact that God wants this and that from us. The Ten Commandments is not there for God. It is there for us so that we don’t destroy each other and the creation God gave us.

We complain and blame, maybe it is time that we start taking RESPONSIBILITY. Until we have learned that our lives are in a mess because of our own actions, nothing will change. He is not a distant God watching from somewhere up there. He is here with us right now. God lives inside each and every one of us, we must just allow Him to be.

God gave us free will to make decisions for ourselves, and that is why we cannot blame anybody for our lives or the choices we make. If you ask someone for advice and they give it to you. You still have to choice to follow it or not. Maybe we must stop shifting the blame and start taking responsibility for our lives.

BE RESPONSIBLE and THE WORLD WILL BE A BETTER PLACE.

Have you ever had a close look at the word “relationship”. It exists out of two sub-words namely – “relation” (which according to the dictonary means the way in which two or more people are connected) and “ship” (which is a big floating vessel).

When we are in a relationship there was something that connected us together, whether it is a friendship , marriage or a serious relationship, but we had something in common. We all know that a ship needs a good captain. Espesially when the sea’s are a bit rough from time to time. If the Captain is not capable of steering the boat it will surely run into trouble and sink.

The same with our relationships. We so very often run into trouble water and call it quits, without even trying to make it work. I have recently watched the movie “What happens in Vegas” and I had a good laugh but I also realised that there is something more to the movie than just a good comedy. This is what I loved about the movie. Instead of granting the two their wish and giving them a divorce, the judge sentenced them to 6 months of hard marriage. They tried everything to prove that they do not belong together, yet for those standing on the outside they were a perfect match. In the end their wish was granted and they did get divorced only to realise that they actually wanted to be married all along.

How many of us are in an unhappy marraige at the moment. We fight all the time – if it is not about the children it is about money , or because we think our partner is having an affair. I think we sometimes forget that we promised each other to stick together no matter what. Maybe it is because we forget that the relationship needs a captain. A lot of my friends always tell me that they wish their marriages were like mine. The truth is we also have our rought seas, the difference is we both have the same captain steering our boat.

A relationship is not just about love, it is also about trust, and faith. We need to trust each other. It doesn’t help that the minute your husband or wife walks out of the door and comes home late from work that you accuse them of having an affair. Have you ever asked yourself why do you feel insecure, so much so that you think your spouse is cheating on you? Is it something that happened to you in a previous relationship or do you just have a low self esteem?

I confronted my husband one day accusing him of cheating on me. The great thing was he did not get upset about it, he took me and sat me down on the couch and took my hands and told me ” I can have any woman in the world, yet I married you.” I then realised that he truly wanted to be with me and that no other woman will make him feel the way I could.

I know a girl who lost her husband to another woman, yes he cheated on her. When we asked him why he did it he told us that she begged him to cheat on her. She was always accusing him of cheating even though at that stage he did not even consider it. She planted the seed in his head to actually try it because that is what she wanted. She accused him of something he did not do. The more he denied it the more she called him a liar and the more they fought. He decided that he might as well do it since he is being accused of it.

This is where faith and trust comes in, not in your partner but in yourself. You must have faith that you made the right decision and you must trust yourself as well as your partner to make the marriage work. If your marrage is build on faith, trust and love you have a very strong foundation that can take the occasional wind and stormy weather.

Relationship and marriage is hard work, but it is the best thing I have ever done in my life. It takes understanding and sacrifices but it is all done in love.

We can learn a lot from our children, especially about faith and using our imaginations. My mother always told me as a child, that if I can imagine it I can do it. The funny thing is, as a child I always imagined that I was a teacher. I used to line my dolls up in a row and play school for hours. I did become a teacher in the end. I believe that, it was my calling in life. I felt strong about teaching as a child that it manifested in my life as a grown up.

It is sad that we can not apply that child like imagination and belief as grown ups. We have a terrible drought at the moment. It is so bad that we currently have water restrictions. Little Matthew must have heard me when I told my friend that none of my lilies bloomed this year because of the drought. In his innocence he told me that I must not worry, he will ask God to”send some rain for the flowers. “Tomorrow God will water the plants mom.” He did he prayed for rain, nothing else just rain. According to the weather forecast today is suppose to be sunny and warm. It is cold and raining.

I wish that I could believe in God the way my child does. They believe unconditionally. I find it very unfortunate that as we grow up we start to loose our unconditional belief. Maybe this is why we find it so hard to manifest the life we so desire. We always want proof of everything, and we always and only believe things when we see it. Yet Christ told his disciples that we need the belief of children.

Maybe we must learn to believe like children unconditionally. There is enough proof in the world around us to show that there is a power higher at work here. We need to get in touch with our inner child and start believing again without any doubts. Maybe then we will manifest the lives we so desire.

Today was one of those days where everything I planned just did not happen, but yet I am grateful because everything happens for the best of all. I wanted to go cycling but had to stay at home because of my son, who was very sick. Later I took him to the doctor who then wanted to admit him in to the hospital because of dehydration. I was heart broken. She told me to take him home get his stuff together and return in half an hour’s time. On my way home I said a little prayer that some how he can please stay at home and not have to go. I received my miracle and my son is at home, and not in hospital.

This whole experienced made me realize how Abraham must have felt when God asked him to sacrifice his only son Isaac to God. For so long Abraham and his wife could not have children and then one day God promised Abraham that he will bless him with a great offspring. God gave Isaac to Sarah and Abraham, because that was Abraham’s greatest wish in life to have a son, and yet God then asked of Abraham to sacrifice that child to Him.

Being a parent I can just imagine what Abraham must have thought, and how he felt. I was very upset just thinking of my son having to go to hospital and not having him around for the night. Abraham had to sacrifice his son. But instead of fighting or arguing with God, Abraham obeyed. He packed the donkey and took his son and they left. Abraham was willing to give his most valuable possession to God. When Isaac asked his father what they were going to sacrifice to God Abraham replied that God will supply.

We so often ask God to help us when we are in need, but are we willing to give back to God for all the blessing we receive on a daily basis. We so often think that being religious and serving God is lame. We blame time for the fact that we go to bed without reading our Bible or saying a prayer. We hardly have enough time for ourselves or our family let alone serving God on a daily basis. My friend laughs at me when I talk about going to church. Yet this is all God asks from us.

We get upset when our prayers are not answered yet we are not willing to give God the glory and time He deserves in our lives. God blessed Abraham with a great offspring because he was always on his post ready to serve God.

What are you willing to give God today?

Two Years ago Rhonda Byrne had the whole world talking with the launch of her book The Secret. In this book she explains how you and I can use the Law of Attraction to create the lives we all so badly want. All we must do is believe.

 Her book awakened a new spiritual urge amongst the human race.  Everybody admitted that there is a higher power. Someone greater than ourselves. We just have to ask and truly believe and everything we desire will come into our lives. I am sure a lot of us have tried and tested this theory. For some it was a success and maybe for others it turned out to be not all we expected it to be.  Is it because we failed in our beliefs?

What is belief? According to the dictionary to believe is to know that something is true. I like to replace “believe” with the word faith. Because if you have faith you don’t have to see something before you believe it. Faith is a deep inner feeling that one can not really describe.

Faith is not only about our religious beliefs, although we like to link faith with religion, it has an impact on our everyday life. The problem is however that most of us do not have true faith in God anymore. We so often pray for something to happen in our lives and upon amen we rely on ourselves to solve the problem instead of waiting for a reply from God.

We so often hear people say miracles do not happen anymore like they used to. Is this not maybe because we rely so much on our own abilities that we forget about the power of God and his abilities.

It is hard to believe or have faith in a God that we cannot see. Yet God does reveal Himself to us every day. I know that science has got an explanation for everything that goes on in life, but if we look deeper and we actually start looking through the eyes of true faith we will soon realize that everything around us is proof that God exists even science. For God created everything that  science is discovering today.

I just think that we are blind to God in this modern day and age. We are so reliant upon ourselves, and our own abilities to create and manifest that we don’t see eye to eye with God. One thing is sure that there is an urge for deeper spirituality in this modern time we live in. Maybe we must stop looking for rational explanations and just start believing in the greatness of God around us.