Relationships are probably one of the most complicated things we have in life. Not just the relationships we have as partners, or husband and wife, but also the relationship we have as friends and parents with our children. While I was teaching a lot of the young teenage girls asked me what I thought true love was. It was one of those things a lot of us think about all the time.  

I know so many couples who after 13 or 15 years of being together just suddenly give up on their marriage or relationship. We so often get hurt or hurt our partners and the sad thing is that most of us are not willing to carry on and give it another shot. When things get tough we see a lawyer and get a divorce and that is when I ask myself the question, “Is it true love” or were we just head over heels in love when we stepped into the relationship for the first time and everything was moonshine and roses? 

Is there truly a difference between the two and I think there is. You know that butterfly over the top feeling you get when you look at a guy; that is being in love. True love is a more and deeper feeling that starts in the heart and no matter what goes wrong never gives up on the person you love. That is true love.  

True love never gives up on a relationship. No matter how bad it has become. People always told me that a relationship is a 50/50 partnership and I so have to disagree about that. A relationship is either you give everything or you don’t give anything at all. Once you learn in your relationship to give everything without always expecting anything back you will soon realise that your partner is doing the same. Love grows continuously every day. The love for my husband and children never stops growing and even in the times it feels that they don’t love me back I know deep down that they do. 

My grandfather told me that the people who love you the most are the people who hurt you the most. I know we do not like to be criticised by our partners but maybe they are doing it because they love us. Another thing I learnt is that if you truly love someone you accept that person the way they are.  At lot of men always complain that their wives were fine when they dated but once they get married they try to change them and vice versa. Men also try to change their wives.  True love accepts each other the way we are. Once we learn to accept one another for what we are, the respect will follow and we will not do the things that drive each other nuts. I know a lot of woman are very sensitive about the toilet seat and it will drive them insane if it is not the way they like it, and there will be endless fights about it. These are unnecessary things. If he forget it up, just put it down girl - it is in their nature. The same with leaving towels on the bathroom floor - just pick it up, and gentlemen if you know that these things drive your woman mad just try and remember to just pick up the wet towel and put the seat down, we call that consideration. Just think of each other when you do something and think of how that person will respond to you action once you learn this you will never have those ridiculous fights in your relationship. 

In true love we consider one another as being the most important person.

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