madi’s place

One advertisement that I can remember as a child was the Nestle Nesquik ad. “Have a Nesquik and blame it on the bunny”.

How true is this not in our daily lives. Everything we do we blame on something or someone else. Shifting the blame, is the easiest thing in the world. I was involved in a accident today. I hit a pedestrian with my car and killed him. It wasn’t my fault he ran across the road, right in front of the car. It was not because I was speeding O, NO it was his FAULT.

It is GOD’s FAULT for giving me crappy parents that is why I am using drugs. It is my parent’s fault that I am having sex at the age of twelve – they don’t care about me. It is my husband’s fault that the kids are not listening; he is never at home to discipline them. It is my wife’s fault that I am having an affair, she is not giving me some special care – it always just the kids.

Do any of these sound familiar? We often blame our past for our current situations. South Africa is a great example of this. The people are unhappy with the government because all they do is “pocket all the money” and the man on street must fend for himself and if someone asks why. “It is because of apartheid.” Yet we are 15 years into a democracy. For fifteen years everybody in this country had a fair chance, yet we still blame it on something that died fifteen year ago. Why? Because it is easy and we don’t have to take responsibility.

The same with our own personal lives. My life is in a mess because of my past and the people around me, not because I made the wrong choices, NO NEVER ME, it is them, and the sad thing we always blame GOD when things go wrong.

Has it ever occurred to you that God might have nothing to do with it? We always pretend that we are here and God is there. There is always a distance between God and us. I mean Beth Midler even sang a song about the distance between God and us. “God is watching us from a distance”. We are so use to the fact that God wants this and that from us. The Ten Commandments is not there for God. It is there for us so that we don’t destroy each other and the creation God gave us.

We complain and blame, maybe it is time that we start taking RESPONSIBILITY. Until we have learned that our lives are in a mess because of our own actions, nothing will change. He is not a distant God watching from somewhere up there. He is here with us right now. God lives inside each and every one of us, we must just allow Him to be.

God gave us free will to make decisions for ourselves, and that is why we cannot blame anybody for our lives or the choices we make. If you ask someone for advice and they give it to you. You still have to choice to follow it or not. Maybe we must stop shifting the blame and start taking responsibility for our lives.

BE RESPONSIBLE and THE WORLD WILL BE A BETTER PLACE.