We all experience love differently. To some of us it is an emotional thing to others it is physical. To some love is about the things you do for others. There are people that think love is cruel. For others it is the best thing since sliced bread. We all look at love from different backgrounds, perspectives and angles. We all see love the way we would like it to be. Television also portrays love in different ways. One of the things that they teach our children about love is that if you love someone you must have sex with them because then they know you love them. Some people indeed feel loved when they have sex with someone. Husbands often feel their wives don’t love them because they don’t get sex that often anymore, then they start an affair. Are all these above mentioned things really love or is it just they way we want love to be? Do we really understand the true concept of love?

Love is more than just butterflies in your tummy or an orgasm during sex. Love has a deep root, but also carries a large responsibility. Love is that thing that stays between two people when all else fails. True love is like superglue. Once you are stuck there is no escaping.

What is love?

Love according to the dictionary is “an intense feeling of deep affection for someone”, “sexual affection or passion”,” strong liking for something”, affectionate greeting”, “a person or thing that you love”, “a friendly form of address” or “no score or nil”. There is more to love than what the eye can see and the body can feel.

Love is an action word so that when you love someone you stick to that person like superglue no matter how awful or how great things are. You stay with that person no matter what. Love does not throw stones at one another. Love doesn’t dry up like a river when there is no rain for a while. Love is a permanent state of being.

The root of love is the following:
Love is patient. To be patient means to have the ability to stay calm and put up with a delay, without becoming angry or upset. A very easy way to explain this is to use something that we all can relate to in one way or another, especially in our teenage years.” If you love me you will sleep with me”. How many of us have heard this before and experience relationships breaking up because the other party in the relationship refuses to do the deed because they are not ready. This is not true love. If your boyfriend or girlfriend insists that you have sex with them to prove your love, they are lying. They are just using you to fulfill their sexual desires. Real love is when he or she understands that you are not ready and then they wait until you are married or when you feel the time is right to take this big step. SEX is NOT LOVE. Love never gives up on others. In other words we don’t deliver our children to evil because we are fed up. We persist with love to help them to find their way back. No matter how much they hurt or disappoint us we always give them that hug to show them how much we love them.

Love is kind. When you really love someone you will not go out of your way to hurt them or get them back for the wrong they did to you. You will forget and forgive and never throw it back in their face the next time you have an argument. People argue full stop, it is the nature of human kind, but love never keeps grouches. Love is when you care more about others than what you care about yourself. I don’t say that you are not allowed to care about yourself, all this means is that you consider other peoples feelings when making decisions. In other words instead of humiliating your wife in front of your mother because she burned dinner, you accept it and tell them you are getting takeaways because it is her night off. Before you humiliate or scream at someone when you are angry or upset with that person think to your self how you would have felt if you are in that person’s shoes and someone had to do to you what you want to do to that person. Take other people into account.

Envy makes you nasty. When you love someone you support them in their success and you are happy when they get a new car or buy a new house. You don’t talk bad about them to other people because you are jealous about their success. Love always looks for the best in other people. When you really love your husband or your wife, you look for the positive things in their personalities not the negatives. Instead of insulting your children because they brought home a bad report card we focus on the good they achieve.

You can display love in so many different ways, by showing gratitude for the food your wife cooked today, for the care you receive from your parents. You don’t have to buy someone big expensive presents to show them that you love them; it is the small things that count in life. Making your bed in the mornings, or hanging up the towels after you bathed. Picking your wife a flower from you garden or leaving a nice letter on her pillow, even just giving her a hug while she is cooking.
The greatest display of love: are the words “thank you” we so often forget. Be grateful to each other.

“Thank you for being a part of my life”

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